I hear many complaints that in representations of BDSM in the media, the Dominant is always male. So I decided to give you my four sexy, kinky, beautiful female dominants in one fell swoop. And because everyone has their poison, I will give you some variation. A Femdom for everyone!
Pilar: the lesbian Mommy Femdom
In the lesbian Mommy-little girl novel At Her Feet, submissive Suzanne meets her Latina Mami Pilar online. And though the novel features more vanilla than kinky sex, their relationship is definately D/s. Pilar loves spoiling her submissive with clothes, stuffies, and spankings. She enjoys knitting for hours with her little girl at her feet. And she likes cooking and role play. Now that is a dating profile few of us would be able to resist! Though Pilar is an incredibly supportive and self-reflective (though flawed) partner, she is also quite kinky. Evidenced most in a scene in the novel where she dresses up like a teacher and Suzanne (dressed in a schoolgirl outfit) meets her in the movie theatre where they act out a forbidden desire fantasy. Yum!
Wendy: the powerful loving wife
The tv show Billions features another sexy and impressive Femdom in the form of Wendy Rhoades. Wendy is a succesful psychiatrist on Wall Street and spends her nights playing with her husband. And she is not a Domme to mess with! Her range of kinks include bondage, humiliation, impact play, sensation play (she puts a cigarette out on his chest) and golden showers. Ah, and there’s the professional Dominatrix that is sometimes brought in to shake things up a bit. Even if you are not in the same city, that does not stop Wendy from being able to dominate you. She is a psychiatrist after all. She excels at long distance phone-BDSM as much as dominating physically. No warmth and fuzziness from this powerqueen, she will make you forget she’s the mother of your children. And probably your own name as well.
Ali: the geeky latex loving Femdom
It is impossible to talk Femdom without mentioning Ali, one of the stars in the Sunstone graphic novels. Ali is a rich programmer who stocked her house with toys and latex outfits designed by her best friend Alan. Though she has never found a real submissive to play with, she’s had practice with BDSM and is extremely prepared to make all your fantasies come true. Ali is the insanely wealthy girl next door, who will hang out in her pyjama’s all day to play video games with you. And suspend you from the ceiling and make you beg for release the next. Ali is sexy, succesful, devoted, and extremely kinky as well as geeky and awkward. After the mommy and the wife, here we have the geeky best friend who, without any notice, will turn into a lioness about to devour you.
Wanda: the divine sadist
And then there is the original Femdom: Wanda/Vanda from Venus in Furs. Though in the novel she is beautiful, elegant and unobtainable, it is Roman Polanski’s 2013 movie Venus in Fur where you can find my fourth pick for sexiest Femdoms. Vanda appears to be a somewhat trashy and definately chatty mature actress who slowly but steadily seduces you into a subspace. Without him realizing, she gets her director to worship her leading to him cross dressing, and licking her shoes. Vanda is the actual impersonation of Venus, the goddess of love. And as goddesses are powerful, so is this Femdom. Whereas Wendy can make you forget your name, Vanda blurs the lines between fantasy and reality until there is nothing you know for certain. Step by step, she will lead you into madness. If that’s not sexy, I don’t know what is.